Aug 9, 2018
Life is a journey that provides various experiences, highs &
lows, opportunities & challenges, stagnation & change. Things
happen. However the question is not whether we can or can’t,
it is “how to”. Each of us has our strengths, talents, dreams,
potential and challenges. We have situations, limitations,
idiosyncrasies that we would like to overcome. We need to
understand our many facets and the various factors that contribute
to who we are. Understanding ourselves is the starting point
for determining the “how to” for our next steps in life, whatever
the goal or outcome that is desired. We may not be able to do
whatever the way we have seen it done, but we can figure out a way
they we can do it. 
With my background in
rehabilitation counseling and being a multi-talent, I facilitate
others in developing and experiencing their potential with
“disabilities” or with characteristics of a high intellect and
creativity. It is a process of understanding, overcoming,
developing, expressing and connecting. The understanding
comes from identifying, recognizing and acknowledging all the
facets that contribute to who we are and what our individual norm
is. No one is normal – meaning fitting the cookie cutter
average which defines the statistics for what we are to be in
whatever context. The first step is to clarify our uniqueness
and our expression of that uniqueness. Decide what works and
what doesn’t work with our desired engagement in life. What
works, continue to develop. What doesn’t work, figure
out the strategy for managing that dynamic so it becomes an asset
versus a liability. Knowing our whys (values, what is
important to us) guides and motivates us towards our desired
expression or experience (our dream, goal). To engage fully
we need to connect with our self, others like us, others in general
(people we interact with day in and day out), and with our big
picture. Living life fully is experiencing all the emotions to
their extremes, flowing through the experience, and not getting
stuck. Understanding our self includes knowing our center so
that we can return to center for balance and rejuvenation.
Emotional exhaustion requires our attention just like physical
exhaustion. Self-care is the grease that keeps the wheel of
life moving more smoothly. Engaging in life fully means the
full ride of the roller coaster with its ups, downs, and
plateaus. The “how to” is with awareness, understanding and
choosing in the moments from our center with the guidance of what
is important to us in life (our values, our purpose, our dreams,
our connections). The question is not whether we can or can’t, but
how to.